Awkward – out of everything that you see on a day to day
basis.. all of the dude high fives, the bestie hugs, the PDA from couples that
pretend like this next 45 minute period might ACTUALLY kill them..awkward is
the best way to describe it. It isn’t bad though. Far from it in fact. It’s growth.
It is the shakiness when we first begin to walk. It is the first long step you
take before you get on an escalator.
But like our first steps, as scary as they might be, they are necessary.
In high school, you see them everywhere. Just
like a parent watching and encouraging a new born, as a teacher, you get to
witness and celebrate with your students all the same. Sometimes it is a quick
first step.. like watching a brilliant, creative, and extraordinarily shy sophomore
get up in front of 30 classmates and speak on a topic that he hopes to god
everyone else enjoys as much as he does and…Sometimes…well, sometimes they are
more like the escalator.
That is the case with Kay- a small, bright, hispanic girl,
that has seemed to have to been pushed off to the side a few too many times.
When I first met her, first semester, I knew
two things about her. I knew she lived in the government assisted housing which
is in walking distance of our school and I knew she spent half the day here and
half the day at our districts alternative school ( that is where the “bad” kids
go)
Kay was in my keyboarding class. If you take a second to
think about what a keyboarding class looks like.. you’re probably spot on.
Other than the brief interaction you get with the students as they walk in,
most of the time is spend monitoring students working on a typing software. (That
has since changed due almost exclusively to the following interaction.)
I was
walking around, giving half-hearted support to students that looked like
zombies glued to a bright screen in a dimly lit room. As I walked by Kay I noticed
she wasn’t doing anything. I had noticed this before but, I thought to myself
as many people do, “this is just how she is.” Not today. Today I stopped. Today
I was going to be tough. And as I started to ask her why she wasn’t working,
she popped her head up, looked me right in my eye and said ..
“ why are you talking to me, you don’t ever talk to me.”
I was crushed. Beyond crushed. Devastated I guess. It was an honest statement. I didn’t talk to
her. Ever. For the first time as a teacher I felt like I didn’t deserve to be
there. As teachers we always hear the phrase “establish teacher student
relationships” You hear it so much in fact that it has all but lost its way in
a long list of phrases and initiatives that get tossed after the next education changing idea arrives at our
door steps.
I came to realize however, that’s all she wanted.. to feel like her
presence mattered.
To feel like she wasn’t passed over.. again. All she wanted was someone to ask how HER day was going and genuinely care about the response.
She doesn’t know it, and I probably won’t ever tell her..
but that long step I was talking about has been my own .........and that interaction changed
me.
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